Tuesday, January 23, 2007

Our Adoption Story

I have always known that I wanted to be a mom. I feel in my heart that to truly be satisfied with my life that this is a must.

Chuck and I were married May 2001 when I was 30 and he was 29, what some might consider later in life. We knew right away that we wanted to start our family.
When I was in my 20's I was diagnosed with PCOS and knew this might be difficult.

Three months into our marriage I spoke with my doctor and due to my history and age it was recommended I see a fertility doctor.

I took the fertility shots with no success. We were told that invitro would be our only option. I began taking the medication and going for frequent blood test. Time after time my sugar came back too high and we could not proceed.

This time was very hard emotionally for me. I can not say enough about how supportive Chuck was. During this time I keep thinking about adoption. Time and time again I keep thinking that I want to be a mom, not just I want to become pregnant. I think during this time God was planting the seed for adoption.

I finally said my heart could no longer take the disappointment of the fertility treatments. I mentioned adoption to Chuck, but he was not ready at this point.

I began to research adoption because I knew in my heart that it was the right thing. I began to pray that if this was the plan for our family that God would open Chuck's heart to it. By this time he said he wasn't opposed to adoption, he just wasn't sure.

I completely understood this. I had time since my 20's to prepare for the fact that I may not have a biological child, Chuck had much less time to prepare for this. If you haven't been in the situation it is hard to explain. I guess that you almost grieve for the child that will never be.

After many tears, prayers and heartfelt conversations Chuck's heart opened to adoption.

We researched all of our options, domestic adoption, foster to adopt and international adoption. International adoption was our choice.

I am not even sure if Dad is aware but he the main reason we went with China. We were talking one afternoon about my desire to become a mom and Dad said "why don't you go to China and bring home a baby girl." Once again I believe God was planting the seed. We prayed about our decision and keep feeling pull to the China program.

The road has been long and hard. We submitted our application on March 2005 and our paperwork was logged in to China 10/13/05. When we began the process the wait time from log in was 6 mos, we have currently been waiting for over 15 mos. The wait has been very difficult. I finally asked God to carry this burden for me and feel at peace about it. We continue to wait, but I know the wait is all part of God's plan for our family. Soon we will see the beautiful daughter He has always had in mind for our family.

We don't know for sure when we will have our referral, but it looks like it will be in the next two months. We are overflowing with anticipation and excitement.

4 comments:

  1. Thanks so much for sharing your story. When did you find out you would get Megan? How long between when you found out and when she'll be here? Have you met her at all yet?

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  2. Christy,
    Once we completed our paperwork (called a dossier) our paperwork went to China. Once our paperwork went through the review room with no questions we knew we would be getting a child. We are pretty sure she will be a girl because most all of the children in orphanages are girls. We requested a girl between the age of 6-15 mos. We will know nothing about her until we receive our referral (picture of our child and medical information). Once we accept the referral (which we know we will no matter what) we will travel in 6-8 wks. We will be in China for approx 14 days. You can also visit our agency website at www.ftia.org I am happy to answer any questions you might have. ~Wendi

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  3. Thank you for the answers, Wendi. I wasn't sure what the terms meant. I'll be thinking of you and checking in to hear how your journey toward your little girl is going!

    I also just read Overwhelmed With Joy's adoption story at http://overwhelmedwithjoy.blogspot.com/ .

    After reading your story and hers, my heart is really tugging. Will have to lift it up to God and see what happens.

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  4. I'm no longer distracted, Wendi. I'm now obsessed. :o) Some of us in the FTIA 10/13 group have started chatting on Tuesday nights. You should join us. Just check the Yahoo group for details.

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